Since it’s Valentines Day I wanted to share some advice, words of love, and a teeny bit of wisdom. I’m in my mid 20’s now so I like to believe I’ve learned a thing or two (although I’m not ashamed to admit I don’t know it all!) So wether you are single, taken, married, or dating the world… the “key to success” is to remember to love yourself. I know, I know it sounds a bit cliche but it is really true.
If you don’t love yourself, who will? If you aren’t your biggest fan and supporter, why would anyone else become your cheerleader? I love myself and I’m proud to say I’m my own #1 fan. (And sometimes its imperative to be your own fan.) If you’re feeling bummed for Valentines day because no one sent you flowers or chocolates, then remind yourself how dope you really are and “treat yo self!’
Self-love is vital and its the best kind of love because you will always be there for yourself. Channel your inner Kanye if you have to, (trust me this works) put on some tunes and have yourself a party. It might sound a tad selfish or even arrogant, but really self-love is so important in evolving (and it doesn’t get discussed enough.) You don’t have to worry about you leaving you, or even breaking up with yourself. You will always be there for yourself, no matter what.
If you are single, tell yourself that you love you! If you are in a relationship, it’s still imperative that you love yourself and take care of yourself. I’ve always thought a relationship is complementary not supplementary, and I believe you should still fulfill your happiness on your own. Your partner is an extra bonus, kind of like the cherry on top of a delicious ice cream sundae!
I think when the world can tell you love yourself, flaws and all, its an infectious feeling because you radiate positivity and better vibes. Don’t be mean to yourself, don’t criticize yourself, forgive yourself often, don’t put yourself down or think you are not enough. Don’t compare your happiness to others. Be kind to yourself, be your biggest fan, take care of your body, and maintain your health.
I am a constant work in progress, as most of us are. To help you gain more perspective and have a foundation on which begin your journey of self-love, here are a few truths to remember:
- STOP comparing yourself to others. People achieve success and fail at different rates.
- Give yourself a pep talk, I talk and hype myself up constantly…I mean CONSTANTLY!
- Take time to reflect, and meditate, journal often if that helps you.
- Exercise, because it is actually good for your soul, not solely your outward experience.
- Appreciate yourself and your body, don’t pick yourself apart — you are you, and you are enough.
- Forgive yourself
- Be honest with yourself
- And focus on the positive
So buy yourself some flowers, take yourself to dinner, get some cup cakes and tell YOU that you love YOU. And if all else fails remind yourself…